My dad left when I was three.
“Guys, I’m stepping out for a smoke. Be right back.”
ABOUT
Hi, I’m Vitor Medrado, a Dad in Panic. To talk about fatherhood, I first need to talk about sonhood. I was raised fatherless. Fatherless of a living father.
My dad left when I was three.
“Guys, I’m stepping out for a smoke. Be right back.”
He never really was.
Once a month, we spoke on the phone, just enough to remind me I had a father.
Not enough to feel safe and loved.
No birthday hugs. No presence at Father’s Day at school. No claps at the year-end show.
I remember clearly: for a long time, I was sure the problem was me.
“Look at you, buddy… such an annoying kid you are.”
That was my self-talk. It debuted in a very loving way.
And so I grew up: messy, insecure, carrying scars no one could see.
The kind of stuff that echoes when you become a parent yourself.
That’s what brought me here.
Not answers. Just a deep need to rewrite the story.
To understand what parenting support really means and to put all my effort into not repeating the example I was given.
That’s why I never step out for a smoke. I do it at home.
(Kidding. I hate cigarettes.)
Before I started writing about fatherhood, I was writing for brands. The kind you find on shelves and screens around the world.
I spent over 15 years in global agencies, creating campaigns recognized by the most respected creative festivals in the industry. But no sleepless night in advertising prepared me for the ones that come with a child.
The more I leaned into gentle parenting, the less I could stomach the aggressive 13–14-hour workdays and the burnout badge that came with them.
The visceral need to be a better dad turned into a visceral need to change how I live, how I work, and how I tell stories.
Dad in Panic is my way of exploring how to be a good father.
Where I make my voice, my craft, and my honesty become some kind of parenting support for dads.
My purpose here is simple: to encourage dads to talk about their feelings.
Talking about a father’s mental health shouldn’t feel like you’re removing your gonads, replacing them with glittery pompoms and asking for a group hug.
It should feel like finally realizing that bottling it up doesn’t make you stronger.
And if I can’t get dads to open up, maybe this becomes the most silent parenting community ever built. One that speaks in nods, fist bumps, and evasive jokes.
At least we’ll know we’re not alone.
That’s where I’m going.
And I hope some of you are coming with me.
Send an email to hello@dadinpanic.com, or just hit the button below.
No spam. No tips you’ve already seen 500 times. Just dad-to-dad truth, stories that hit home, and the occasional well-timed swear word.